There’s been a lot of attention lately on the concept of “quiet quitting.” It’s a confusing term because people aren’t actually quitting. Quiet quitting is when someone continues to work, but doesn’t go above and beyond what is reasonably expected of them. In many workplaces, this might be the best way to maintain boundaries and in turn reduce stress and burnout. Having good boundaries in all areas of your life helps you have better work-life balance, better mental health, and better relationships. We want that for you!
I’ve been doing therapy for about 10 years now and I have worked with many couples and I wanted to share one of the most common problems that I hear about and see on my couch: that is the pursuer-distancer dynamic.
Introducing our newest team member, Hadley Davis, LMFT! Hadley comes to Laurel Therapy Collective with over a decade of full time experience working with teens. She loves this age group because it's a chance to help develop healthy habits and coping strategies before unhealthy ones get ingrained. "I feel it’s a great honor to be able to work and support somebody during this period of time." When it comes to understanding and loving this age group, it doesn't get better than Hadley.
To learn more about our services for teens, see here. To read more about Hadley's experience and approach, see here.
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Today we’re going to talk about the Sound Relationship House, a theory from John Gottman after decades of research and studying couples. This theory provides a nice structure for a relationship. As you can see, trust and commitment are pillars in a relationship, meaning that if one or both of them fall, the whole house comes down. When that happens, such as after an affair, you have to start from scratch and rebuild the foundation and go up.
Here’s my favorite hack for figuring out why you don’t feel good. Now, this is a short term, in-the-moment hack, and it’s not meant to replace therapy or medication or any kind of longer-term plan. But if you’re having a day where you just do not feel like yourself, you feel terrible, this acronym can help you hopefully get some relief:
H - hungry
A - angry
L - lonely
T - tired
T - thirsty
Let’s talk about how you can maximize a visit with a psychiatrist. Now, an appointment with a psychiatrist is often difficult to get, particularly if you’re going through your insurance, so you really want to maximize that time. I have six steps today to help you [do that.] You might only get half an hour with them so you want to make sure that you communicate really clearly and in language that they will understand.
Today I wanted to talk about couples and relationships. The pandemic tested a lot of them, am I right? Across the board, similarities between various types of relationships, whether poly, monogamous, queer or heterosexual, most people desire better communication, creating shared meaning or values with one another -- meaning what is the goal of the couple together -- and navigating personal differences. Most people want to feel more supported, committed, and understood.
Let’s talk about self-diagnosis! I know there’s been a lot of talk about this on social media and I wanted to put in my two cents. There are lots of pros and cons with self-diagnosis.
Meet the newest member of our staff, Coriann Papazian, LMFT!
Coriann brings with her a wealth of experience working with adults and couples from diverse backgrounds. A few of her many strengths are working with anxiety, depression, trauma, and grief. She particularly loves working with individuals and couples within the LGBT+ community. "It's close to my heart," she says. Issues that might come up with individuals include navigating the coming out process, finding community, and navigating diverse relationships. When working with couples, she uses the Gottman approach to enhance communication skills, resolve conflict, and build shared meaning.
Dating is really hard! I hear this from people I work with, friends, family members, etc. It’s a really difficult endeavor. I want to talk about some of the reasons why.
See also: Healing Relationship Patterns with Laurel Roberts-Meese and Hadley Davis.
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