Believe it or not, we are quickly approaching the holiday season. For couples, this time of year is often decorated with the spirit of love and gratitude, the creation of new traditions and… *checks notes* ….negotiations?!
That’s right, this magical time of year can quickly turn into a tricky game of scheduling chess. Deciding where and with whom to spend your precious, and often limited, time can become an obstacle for many couples. This is especially true for couples who may be spending the holidays with each other’s families for the first time. Here are some tips to negotiate the holidays with your partner successfully:
Please join us in welcoming Alexis Bibler, AMFT, to the team!
Alexis loves working with adults and couples and has experience working with people of all ages. She's trained in the Gottman approach to couples therapy.
"Therapy works its magic when the teamwork between therapist and client is strong. My intention is to prioritize you in our work together so that you feel comfortable and empowered in our sessions. Whatever your goals, I am excited to offer support and collaboration so you can lead your best life."
You can read more about Alexis and her approach to working with clients here.
Alexis comes to us having finished her Masters at Pepperdine University and completing practicum at Hope For Healthy Families in Sacramento. She is clinically supervised by Laurel Roberts-Meese, LMFT.
I’ve been doing therapy for about 10 years now and I have worked with many couples and I wanted to share one of the most common problems that I hear about and see on my couch: that is the pursuer-distancer dynamic.
Today we’re going to talk about the Sound Relationship House, a theory from John Gottman after decades of research and studying couples. This theory provides a nice structure for a relationship. As you can see, trust and commitment are pillars in a relationship, meaning that if one or both of them fall, the whole house comes down. When that happens, such as after an affair, you have to start from scratch and rebuild the foundation and go up.
Meet the newest member of our staff, Coriann Papazian, LMFT!
Coriann brings with her a wealth of experience working with adults and couples from diverse backgrounds. A few of her many strengths are working with anxiety, depression, trauma, and grief. She particularly loves working with individuals and couples within the LGBT+ community. "It's close to my heart," she says. Issues that might come up with individuals include navigating the coming out process, finding community, and navigating diverse relationships. When working with couples, she uses the Gottman approach to enhance communication skills, resolve conflict, and build shared meaning.
Coriann is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist serving adults, teens, and couples virtually throughout California.
Transcript: Hi, I’m Laurel. I’m a licensed therapist, and today’s post is about the number one communication hack [which also happens to be] the only thing I ever get tired of saying as a therapist. I want to share with you because I feel like everyone can benefit from it. You certainly don’t need to come to therapy to contemplate it.
Boundaries is one of those buzzwords that you hear a lot about. Relationships are supposed to have them, it’s hard to set them sometimes. I think there’s a lot of confusion about what a boundary is, so I wanted to talk about that. My favorite definition of a boundary is this:
A Conversation Between Hadley Davis, LMFT, and Laurel Roberts-Meese, LMFT
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