Couples therapy

​We are all born with a basic, biological need to
​connect and feel loved by others.

​Then it gets complicated.

Communication.

The most common reason people come to couples therapy is to improve communication, and in turn reduce conflict. Whether you're struggling with miscommunications, frequent fights, infidelity, feelings of loss and distance, values difference, or uncertainty about the future, couples therapy can help improve communication and increase feelings of closeness, love, and hope.

Much of the time, the issues that arise between couples began long before two people met. Our attachments to our parents and caregivers as children, as well as what we observe in the relationships around us inform what we expect and desire in a romantic partnership. Often without being conscious of it, we feel frustration or sadness when our partner lets us down or doesn't meet our unspoken expectations. This is normal and can be improved through therapy.

I love working with couples because there is greater impact for change when two people work together rather than separately. There's energy and movement and possibility in every session.

​Before we begin, I'll talk to each of you separately to get a sense of what you're hoping to achieve in therapy. Then we'll meet together for a few sessions as I get to know you and your relationship. Then we'll collaborate on a plan for how to help you reduce conflict and feel more connected and loved.

Recommended reading for couples:

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman