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LGBTQ THERAPY IN CALIFORNIA & FLORIDA

Work With An LGBTQ Therapist Who Is Part Of The Community

Online therapy across California and Florida, from a practice where most of us are queer ourselves.

You Should Not Have To Explain The Basics

Most of our therapists are members of the LGBTQ community. Not allies, not trained in it, members of it. That changes what the first session looks like. You do not spend it defining terms or deciding how much context your therapist needs before the real conversation starts. You can say what happened and be understood the first time. Whether you are newly out, twenty years out, sorting through a complicated relationship structure, or looking for someone who will not treat your identity as the presenting problem, we are here.

What People Bring To Us

  • Coming out, at any age, including much later than you expected to,

  • Internalized homophobia and transphobia that has started to affect your relationship. We wrote about how that shows up in partnerships.

  • Family, religious or cultural rejection, and the grief that comes with it,

  • Being at different levels of outness than your partner,

  • Butch, femme, non-binary and gender-fluid identity, and how it shows up in relationships,

  • Mismatched libido and desire differences,

  • Ethical non-monogamy and open relationship structures,

  • Family building, including the legal, financial and biological parts. Our piece on wedding planning as an LGBTQ couple covers a lot of the family dynamics that come up.

  • Anxiety, depression and trauma, treated by someone who understands the context,

  • Gender exploration and letters of support for gender affirming care,

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A Message From Our Director To Our LGBTQ Community

2025 and 2026 have been very difficult for us as a community. It has been an acceleration of what has been happening for the last ten years; we are seeing coordinated efforts to strip away our rights, livelihoods, and humanity. This is particularly true for our trans siblings.

Therapy is not adequate consolation for the rights and legal protections we deserve. Our practice’s intention is to offer hope, affirmation, and ways to cope until the pendulum of progress swings the other way, as it always has, and to grieve the very real losses we incur until then. When we cannot make widespread change, we can start at home by being our most authentic, loving, and lovable selves.

LGBT people have always existed, and many have thrived despite efforts to undermine our joy. We will continue to live, love, and flourish despite efforts to dim our light. We hope to offer our LGBT clients the support and validation to live their best lives in whatever climate they find themselves.

May each day bring you a little more self-compassion, hope, and community.

- Laurel

OUR THERAPISTS WHO SPECIALIZE IN LGBTQ THERAPY

Anti-racist  |  Gender Affirming  |  Sex Positive  |  Body Positive and HAES-aligned  |  Kink-allied  |  Poly-literate

Laurel van der Toorn, LMFT

Specializing in lawyers and EMDR in California, Colorado, Florida, Michigan, Texas & Washington

Daniella Mohazab, AMFT

Specializing in EMDR and holistic therapy in California

The Path To Strong LGBTQ Mental Health Is Paved With Authenticity

Your identity formation and the challenges that come with it are deeply personal. From the joys of self-discovery to the pain of feeling misunderstood or unaccepted, every step can weigh heavy. Our therapists are here to help you with whatever stage you’re in. Most of us are members of the community ourselves.

LGBTQ Identity Formation and Transition

For many LGBTQ people, the journey of identity formation and transition is a fundamental aspect of their lives. Whether discovering one's gender identity or coming to terms with your sexual orientation, it's a journey of self-discovery, self-acceptance, and ultimately, self-love. There is grief, joy, awe, and pain that only other LGBTQ people understand.

Coping with Loneliness, Anxiety, and Depression In The LGBTQ Community

Throughout the process of coming out and being out, feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and depression are common. The fear of rejection, discrimination, or violence can weigh heavily on the minds of LGBTQ people, leading to heightened stress and emotional distress. This piece on protecting your LGBTQ relationship against political stress speaks directly to how the current climate is affecting our community's mental health and what actually helps. Seeking support from therapists, support groups, or online communities can offer a safe space to process these feelings and receive validation and understanding.

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Grieving Lost Time and Opportunities

One of the profound challenges faced by many LGBTQ people is the grief and loss associated with time that could have been spent authentically embracing our true selves. The realization that precious years were spent conforming to societal norms or hiding one's true self can evoke feelings of regret, sadness, and even anger. By making space for these feelings, we find ways to heal from the past while looking forward to the present and future.

Coping with Misunderstanding and Rejection

Feeling misunderstood or unaccepted by loved ones and society at large is a painful reality for many LGBTQ individuals. Whether it's facing rejection from family members, discrimination in the workplace, or harassment in public spaces, the lack of acceptance can take a significant toll on mental health and well-being. Finding support from understanding allies and affirming communities can make all the difference.

Online Therapy Across California and Florida

All of our therapy is online. That is a deliberate choice rather than a limitation.

For LGBTQ clients it often works better. If you live somewhere with three therapists and you know two of them socially, online widens the field. If you are not out at work and cannot explain a standing Tuesday appointment across town, online removes the problem. If the nearest affirming clinician is two hours away, distance stops mattering.

Being on video does not change the depth of the work. It changes where you sit while you do it.

You need to be physically located in California or Florida at the time of your session. That is a licensing requirement rather than a preference.

We Are Entirely Therapist Owned & Operated

Here’s how that sets us apart from large teletherapy companies:

  • We don’t use algorithms - everything is customized to you

  • We don’t sell your data like large companies have - your privacy is everything to us

  • We do not accept outside funding - we focus on your satisfaction instead of investors’

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Nothing Is More Important Than A Great Therapist Match

Research suggests that feeling a strong connection to your therapist is one of the most important factors influencing successful therapy.

That’s why we’re so committed to making sure you’ve got a good therapist fit.

No algorithms. No automation. Just real, human-centered connection.

We’ve refined a matching process over years that considers your goals for therapy, personality, preferences, and research-backed modalities.

It starts with a free 20-minute conversation directly with one of our therapists.

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Empowering Your Gender Journey With Letters of Support

We believe in the importance of every person's journey towards authenticity. Our practice provides affirming therapy services for the trans community, including support documents for gender affirming care.

We Understand Gender Affirming Care

Gender affirming care is life saving care. Our practice takes pride in supporting people who are exploring or transitioning. This includes helping you accessing medical treatments such as hormone therapy or surgeries that align with your gender identity.

We understand that this journey can be complex and deeply personal. Our therapists provide a curiosity-led space where you can explore your gender identity and receive the support you need. We are familiar with the WPATH SOC v 8.

Letter Writing for Gender Affirming Care

One of the services we offer is writing letters of support for gender affirming care. These letters play a vital role in the medical and legal processes that you may undergo during your gender affirmation journey. We know it's emotional and inconvenient to need these letters. But until it becomes easier to access care, we are happy to provide letters to people we have assessed and worked with for at least three sessions.

Read more about these letters and how the support your medical transition process here.

Respecting Your Expertise

We believe you are the expert on your experience. Your gender is not something anyone else can determine for you. We believe you should be able to access hormone therapy, gender confirmation surgery, or legal gender marker changes without issue. Sadly, this is not how our current medical and legal system is set up. Our therapists are here to provide assessments and letters of support to make accessing care easier.

Specialized Training and Advocacy

Our therapists have specialized training in gender issues and have received training in how to write effective letters of support. We understand the medical and psychological aspects of gender affirming care. We are well-versed in the criteria and requirements set by insurance companies. This ensures that the letters of support we write meet the necessary standards for insurance approval. We can articulate the medical necessity of gender affirming procedures, helping you gain access to the care you deserve.

Handling Insurance Challenges

Getting insurance coverage for gender affirming medical and surgical procedures can be challenging. It can also be very emotional and psychologically taxing. Having gatekeepers to life-saving medical care is unjust and unfair. We hope to remove as many barriers as possible.

Our team is dedicated to assisting clients through this often complex process. We provide detailed, professionally crafted letters that emphasize the medical and psychological necessity of gender affirming treatments, increasing the likelihood of insurance approval.

LGBTQ Couples Therapy

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Riding the ups and downs of a relationship is a challenge for all couples. But when you're in an LGBTQ partnership, you may encounter hurdles that demand a specific approach to therapy. Our LGBTQ couples therapy is tailored to address these challenges and help you overcome them and strengthen your bond. It’s possible to find that harmonious and loving connection you both desire.

In LGBT relationships, the dynamics can differ from heterosexual partnerships due to societal, familial, and individual factors. Our expertise in lesbian couples counseling is designed to help you and your partner navigate these challenges effectively. Learn more about how our LGBTQ couples therapy can make a significant difference in your relationship.

Therapy for Trans and Nonbinary Teenagers

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We have experience working with trans and gender-expansive youth and helping support parents with related issues.

It can be hard to let go of your ideas about your child’s identity and future. This often creates conflict with your teen, who feels you are dismissing them.

You may wonder if it’s a phase or worry about their safety. We can help both of you through those questions and feelings, and help you reconnect with your beautiful teen.

FAQs

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Issues We Often Explore In LGBT Therapy

It would be great if there was a standardized approach to LGBTQ therapy. But that’s simply not the case, and you shouldn’t work with a therapist who acts like it is. Here are six areas unique to LGBT therapy that our therapists can help with.

Outness and Identity

Coming out isn’t a one time thing. It’s a perpetual conversation and negotiation with self and others. A good LGBT therapist should be able to help you navigate these decisions and conversations.

Communication

It turns out LGBT folx have some unique skills when it comes to communication. We tend to be more empathetic and careful with our words. But that doesn’t mean communication is always easy.

Future and Family Planning

Building a life, relationship, and family as an LGBT person often comes with added layers of complexity and emotional upheaval. Making decisions about relationships, titles, legal agreements, about how and when to expand your family, as well as facing system, financial, and biological barriers, can be exhausting and intense. Our LGBT therapists get it.

Gender Identity

We wish more therapists understood the basics of our alphabet soup, but the truth is many decent therapists still don’t understand the difference between orientation and gender identity. We know it’s a distinct but interconnected dance between the two. If you’re exploring your gender, or hold a gender identity other than the one you were assigned at birth, you’ll find affirmation and understanding here. No extra labor on your part. Simply share your experience without having to explain basic concepts.

Family Issues

Lack of family acceptance can be devastating and stressful for LGBT people. It can cause us to question our worth and purpose. It can make joyful events like weddings, births, and other life milestones painful, and it makes difficult life events like illness and loss more devastating. Our guide on navigating the challenges LGBT couples face when planning a wedding addresses many of the family dynamics that come up around those milestones. Working with a great therapist can help you overcome these difficulties and build meaningful community to celebrate and support you through life.

Homophobic & Transphobic Violence and Internalized Homophobia and Transphobia

It’s difficult to move through a world where violence on a macro and micro level are a reality. It’s not possible to prevent it from affecting your view of yourself. Over time, this can become internally toxic. Our LGBT therapists can help you work through internalized homophobia and transphobia and heal. Over time, that internalized messaging can also quietly damage your relationships. Here's how internalized homophobia specifically shows up in partnerships. The real meaning of pride, after all, is the resilience we feel when we overcome being taught to hate ourselves.

Other Affirming and Holistic Therapy Services in California & Beyond

Laurel Therapy Collective offers online therapy across California and Florida. Alongside LGBTQ therapy, our therapists work in EMDR and trauma therapy, couples therapy, Enneagram therapy, anxiety, and LGBTQ couples therapy.

We are anti-racist, body-positive, and sex positive, and we would be glad to talk with you.