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What to Do If You Had a Bad Experience with EMDR Therapy
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What to Do If You Had a Bad Experience with EMDR Therapy

If you’ve landed on this page, it probably means you’re feeling confused, hurt, or discouraged after trying EMDR therapy. We want to say right up front: we’re so sorry that happened. When therapy is supposed to offer healing and instead leaves you feeling worse, it feels especially jarring.

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Dreading Family Gatherings? How EMDR Can Reduce In-Law Anxiety
Couples and Relationships, Family Dynamics, EMDR, Anxiety Laurel van der Toorn Couples and Relationships, Family Dynamics, EMDR, Anxiety Laurel van der Toorn

Dreading Family Gatherings? How EMDR Can Reduce In-Law Anxiety

A lot of people experience real anxiety about in-laws.

Sometimes it starts days before the event. You find yourself dreading the holiday, the dinner, the birthday party, the weekend visit. Your body tenses up before you’ve even left the house. You rehearse conversations in your head. You worry about what will be said, whether your partner will back you up, and how long it will take to recover afterward.

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Why Your In-Laws Trigger You So Much (And How EMDR Can Help)
Couples and Relationships, EMDR, Trauma, Family Dynamics Laurel van der Toorn Couples and Relationships, EMDR, Trauma, Family Dynamics Laurel van der Toorn

Why Your In-Laws Trigger You So Much (And How EMDR Can Help)

If you find yourself wondering, "Why do my in-laws trigger me so much?" the answer is usually deeper than “they’re annoying.”

Yes, maybe they are intrusive and critical and always seem to know exactly how to get under your skin. But when a reaction feels intense, immediate, or hard to shake, it usually means something in your nervous system is getting activated.

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Does EMDR Therapy Work Online? What The Research Says
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Does EMDR Therapy Work Online? What The Research Says

When EMDR therapy first became widely available online, many people had the same reaction:

Wait… this works over video?

EMDR therapy already feels a little unusual if you’re new to it. You think about a difficult memory while following eye movements or tapping your shoulders, and somehow the memory becomes less distressing.

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How To Find a Great EMDR Therapist in San Francisco
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How To Find a Great EMDR Therapist in San Francisco

If you’re searching for trauma therapy in the Bay Area, you’ve probably come across EMDR therapy.

Short for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, EMDR is a highly researched and effective treatment for trauma, PTSD, and emotional activation, among other things.

But like any therapy, your experience depends largely on finding the right fit.

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Burnout in Healthcare: Why So Many Professionals Are at a Breaking Point
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Burnout in Healthcare: Why So Many Professionals Are at a Breaking Point

If you work in healthcare, you’ve probably noticed a shift over the last few years. Colleagues leaving the field. Experienced nurses stepping away earlier than expected. Physicians quietly reducing hours or moving into nonclinical roles.

Many healthcare professionals assume this means they are failing at the job. In reality, something else is happening.

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How to Set Boundaries With Difficult In-Laws Without Causing More Conflict

How to Set Boundaries With Difficult In-Laws Without Causing More Conflict

If your in-laws leave you tense for days and your partner keeps saying ‘that’s just how they are,’ the issue is no longer just the in-laws. It’s the pressure the dynamic is putting on your relationship.

If you have difficult in-laws, you already know the problem is usually not just what they do. It’s the position they hold in your life.

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The Toll of Constant Health Tracking: A Therapist’s Perspective
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The Toll of Constant Health Tracking: A Therapist’s Perspective

We are absolutely drowning in data about our bodies. From sleep scores to glucose monitors, it’s never been easier to track your body’s every move. Apps and devices promise to optimize your health, boost your mood, and help you “finally feel like yourself again.” But for people dealing with anxiety, burnout, or body image issues, constant self-monitoring can become another source of stress.

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EMDR Therapy for Fear of Flying: How It Works and Why It Helps
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EMDR Therapy for Fear of Flying: How It Works and Why It Helps

Fear of flying is super common. It’s not just about turbulence or claustrophobia. For many people, the anxiety tied to flying can feel overwhelming, even debilitating. It can affect your ability to travel for work, see loved ones, or take vacations. Even the thought of booking a flight might cause panic, sleeplessness, or intrusive thoughts.

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Coming Out Later in Life: How a Lesbian Therapist Can Support Your Journey
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Coming Out Later in Life: How a Lesbian Therapist Can Support Your Journey

 Claiming your identity as a lesbian later in life can be both liberating and overwhelming. Working with a lesbian therapist can make all the difference. Therapy offers a protected space to process questions, grief, anxiety, and excitement, all while being supported by someone who understands the nuances of your experience.

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