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What Everyone Gets Wrong About High-Functioning Anxiety
Do you feel like most people don't understand how hard it is for you to get through a typical day? Do you feel like you're always waiting for something bad to happen? Or that if people knew you better they would be disappointed? Do you get stuck on details and feel you have to be perfect? If you said yes to any of these questions, you might be struggling with "high functioning anxiety."
How To Support A Partner Who Has Sexual Trauma
What do you do when your partner has been the victim of sexual trauma and you want to support them? What if you still want to have a great sex life together? We'll walk you through the most common responses to sexual trauma and how to be a supportive, loving partner.
Podcast: What Straight Couples Can Learn From LGBT Couples
Our clinical director is featured on the Empowered Relationship podcast with Dr. Jessica Higgins. She reviews what LGBT couples can teach straight couples and what to look for in a great LGBT couples therapist.
Can Couples Therapy Make Things Worse?
Couples therapy can be a pivotal intervention for relationships facing challenges. But it's not without its potential pitfalls. One common concern is whether couples therapy can make things worse. And yes, sometimes it can make things worse. Let's explore how and why that might happen and what to do about it.
Sex After Sexual Trauma: How To Be A Good Lover To A Survivor
When and how to approach sex with someone who has been assaulted can be tricky business. Every experience is different, and no amount of research or good intention can replace healthy communication with your partner. Here's what you should know about how to be a great partner, spouse, lover, or friend-with-benefits to someone who has been sexually assaulted or raped.
What We Can Learn From Michelle Obama’s Experience In Couples Therapy
Couples often come to therapy at a point of crisis or significant life changes. The hope is for a sudden, dramatic turnaround in the relationship. And it's totally possible to change. We've seen it happen. But a roadblock arises when someone expects their partner to be the sole catalyst for change. Even Michelle Obama experienced this. Let's explore why this can be problematic and why a different approach is key in couples therapy.
When Couples Therapy Is A Bad Idea
Couples therapy can be a powerful resource for improving relationships. But there are situations in which couples therapy may not be advisable or effective. Here are the most common reasons couples therapy might be a bad idea.
13 Ways To Support Your Anxious Partner
It's hard when your partner is going through something you can't fix. Anxiety can be a challenging experience, not just for the person going through it but also for their partner. If your loved one is dealing with anxiety, it's hard to know where to start. Here are 13 practical strategies for being there for your partner.
Couples Therapy Isn't Always About Staying Together
Couples therapy is often seen as a last-ditch effort to salvage a relationship. But the goal of couples therapy isn't always keeping couples together. A good therapist is committed to ensuring that both parties find the path that's best for them. In some cases, therapy might lead to a couple making the difficult decision to part ways. And that's okay! Let's explore how therapy can help couples separate with integrity.
Rethinking Outdated Marriage Advice: Beyond "Happy Wife, Happy Life"
When it comes to relationship advice, one old adage that keeps echoing is "Happy wife, happy life." It's a well-meant sentiment, but it's time to rethink this age-old saying. The notion of permanent happiness and self-sacrifice can be problematic. This is true in any relationship, regardless of gender. It's time move from this simplistic adage into a more empowered approach to marital happiness.
Video: The Importance Of LGBT-Affirmative Couples Therapy
Our clinical director is featured on the CalPsychiatry MindStories podcast talking about the importance of LGBT Affirmative couples therapy. Listen in as she talks about what’s different - and what’s the same - compared to straight couples therapy.
7 Things That Can’t Be Fixed in Couples Therapy
Couples therapy can address many issues, but there are certain situations where the challenges are too big. Here are the seven most common things couples therapy can't change.
Healing the Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic in Relationships: A Path to Harmony
Do you ever feel like your partner is trying to get away from you? Not in a literal sense, but subtly. This feeling likely shows up when they don't express affection or move toward you the way you do for them. It might look like needing a lot of alone time, ignoring your bids for affection, or struggling to communicate their feelings. You know they love you, but it doesn't always feel like it. If this sounds familiar, you might be caught in the frustrating Pursuer-Distancer dynamic.
Your Couples Therapist Is Not a Referee
It’s normal, and sometimes even healthy, to argue in relationships. It’s also normal to want to seek out validation for your feelings, especially if you feel like your partner isn’t being receptive. It's tempting to see things as black and white. But when couples start to view their therapist as a referee, therapy gets derailed.
The Truth About Lies in Relationships: Why We Lie and How to Handle It
We've all had those moments when a little white lie slips out. Whether it's about traffic, busyness, or how good that homemade lasagna is. Lying is part of human communication, and not all lies are bad. In fact, many are told with the best intentions, aimed at preserving relationships and sparing feelings. But when the truth eventually surfaces, trust can waver.
Dealing With Challenging In-Laws: How Couples Should Handle Complex Dynamics
They say that why you marry someone, you marry their family. While some in-laws become beloved members of your extended family, others present challenges. It takes skill to navigate these complexities while preserving the unity of your chosen family. Let's explore various types of challenging in-laws and how to communicate with your spouse.
What To Do If Your Couples Therapist Is Taking Your Partner's Side
When tensions rise, it's difficult to feel heard. Good couples therapy seeks to make sure everyone feels heard and understood. But not all couples therapists know when someone feels therapy is unfair. Unfortunately, feeling like your couples therapy isn't balanced or fair happens too often. If couples therapy feels lopsided, here are some suggestions.
What To Do When One of the “4 Horsemen” Appears In Your Relationship
Few things feel as stressful as conflict and tension in our closest relationships. It can feel especially threatening when you encounter one of the infamous "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse." These four toxic behaviors can unleash chaos in your relationship if left unchecked. But don't worry! We've got actionable strategies to combat them and repair your connection.
What to Do If Your Partner Won't Go to Couples Therapy
Couples therapy is a great tool for strengthening relationships. It can help you navigate the hardest parts of a partnership and come out stronger on the other side. But what do you do when you know it's time for therapy, but your partner won't budge? The journey to convince them can be tricky, but with a blend of patience and empathy, it's possible to get them on board.
8 Reasons Couples Therapy Doesn't Work
Couples therapy is a powerful tool that can help couples strengthen their relationships. But it's not a one-size-fits-all solution. It's certainly not fool-proof. In some cases, couples may find that therapy doesn't yield the expected results. Understanding the reasons behind this can help you make the most out of your therapy experience.
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