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What to Do If You’re Smothering Your Partner: A Guide to Self-Soothing
So your partner just told you you’re smothering them. Ouch! That stings. If you’re wondering where to go from here, we’ve got a plan.
Does EMDR Therapy Work For Complex Trauma?
Complex trauma is pervasive and requires a skilled therapist to heal. From attachment wounds to emotional reactivity to nervous system dysregulation, it's a tough lot. EMDR therapy has proven time and again to be effective for trauma, but most research has explored how it works for single incident traumas. So does it work when the trauma is complex?
A Couples Therapist Reacts to Love Is Blind
What reality TV can teach us about real relationships – from a Los Angeles couples therapist.
How to Pace Yourself in Dating: Building Healthy Connections with Attachment Style Awareness
So you both swiped right and you've got those furious butterflies in your stomach. You can't believe you finally met someone you really click with! But how do you proceed without getting way ahead of yourself and getting hurt? How can you prevent codependence? How do you lean into the excitement without scaring them off?
How Couples Can Be Less Codependent And Move Toward Interdependence
While closeness in a relationships feels good, losing your independent sense of self isn't good for anyone. Transitioning from codependence to interdependence—a state where partners support each other while maintaining their own identities—requires effort. Here's how to do it.
What is Codependency? A Couples Therapist Explains
The term "codependency" is used to describe relationships where one person seems to lose themselves in the needs of another. Originally rooted in the context of addiction and substance use, the term has broadened to include a range of unhealthy relational dynamics. Let’s explore what codependency is and how it manifests in relationships.
Difficulty Regulating Emotions? It Might Be Your Attachment Style
Our attachment style is developed early in life through our interactions with primary caregivers. This programming translates directly into how seamlessly we can respond to stress and unexpected events. Understanding this link can help explain why some struggle with emotions and responses.
What to Do If Your Partner is Smothering You
If you feel like your partner is smothering you, it's important to address the issue in a way that respects both your needs and theirs. Understanding why this might be happening through the lens of attachment can be a helpful first step in finding relief for both of you.
Deep, Meaningful Relationships Are The True Markers of Health and Success
We often measure success by our job titles, salaries, and material possessions. It's become too easy to prioritize external achievements and milestones. Yet, research consistently shows that the true cornerstone of happiness lies in the quality of our relationships. Whether it's with family, friends, or partners, these connections have a profound impact on our life satisfaction. Here's why, and how millennials can create more depth in our relationships.
Reclaim Your Dating Life: 4 Steps To Overcome Dating App Burnout
If dating apps are leaving you feeling drained and disillusioned, you're in good company. Dating is more tiring than people outside the grind of it understand. Here are three reasons why dating apps can be exhausting and four steps to refresh your energy.
The Most Common Problem Between Couples - And How To Fix It
In the last 10 years I have worked with many couples and I wanted to share one of the most common problems that I hear about and see on my couch: that is the pursuer-distancer dynamic.
Why Dating Sucks, According to a Couples Therapist
The real reasons why dating is so hard, from a psychotherapist's point of view.
Therapists Discuss: Healing Relationship Patterns
Therapist interview with Hadley Davis: Attachment is how you set up boundaries - or don’t, how you show love - or don’t. It’s how you relate to other people in your life.
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