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Anxiety vs. OCD: Why It Feels Different in Your Body and Brain
Anxiety, Depression, OCD Laurel van der Toorn Anxiety, Depression, OCD Laurel van der Toorn

Anxiety vs. OCD: Why It Feels Different in Your Body and Brain

Where anxiety tends to be more diffuse, ongoing, and general, OCD shows up in sudden spikes followed by compulsive behaviors or mental rituals meant to bring relief.

Let’s unpack how each condition tends to show up in the body and brain, and how understanding these patterns can lead to more effective therapy and support.

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The Difference Between Feeling Calm, Numb, and Dissociated in EMDR Therapy
EMDR, Trauma, Anxiety Laurel van der Toorn EMDR, Trauma, Anxiety Laurel van der Toorn

The Difference Between Feeling Calm, Numb, and Dissociated in EMDR Therapy

Clients often tell their EMDR therapist, “I felt calm during that set,” only to realize later that they were actually numb or starting to dissociate. These states can feel similar in the moment, but they affect trauma therapy very differently. Understanding the distinction helps you communicate with your EMDR therapist, stay grounded in session, and get the most benefit from EMDR therapy.

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Understanding Your Teen’s Struggles In 2026: Why They Might Need Extra Support
Anxiety, Teens Laurel van der Toorn Anxiety, Teens Laurel van der Toorn

Understanding Your Teen’s Struggles In 2026: Why They Might Need Extra Support

Have you noticed that teens today seem more anxious, more dependent on their parents, or less confident than previous generations?

As teen therapists, we’ve seen a clear shift. Even years after lockdowns ended, many teens are still struggling to catch up socially and emotionally. While schools focused (appropriately) on academic recovery, emotional development often took a back seat, and it shows.

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Dreading Family Gatherings? How EMDR Can Reduce In-Law Anxiety
Couples and Relationships, Family Dynamics, EMDR, Anxiety Laurel van der Toorn Couples and Relationships, Family Dynamics, EMDR, Anxiety Laurel van der Toorn

Dreading Family Gatherings? How EMDR Can Reduce In-Law Anxiety

A lot of people experience real anxiety about in-laws.

Sometimes it starts days before the event. You find yourself dreading the holiday, the dinner, the birthday party, the weekend visit. Your body tenses up before you’ve even left the house. You rehearse conversations in your head. You worry about what will be said, whether your partner will back you up, and how long it will take to recover afterward.

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What Else Can EMDR Therapy Be Used For Besides Trauma?
EMDR, Trauma, Anxiety, OCD, Phobias, Attachment Laurel van der Toorn EMDR, Trauma, Anxiety, OCD, Phobias, Attachment Laurel van der Toorn

What Else Can EMDR Therapy Be Used For Besides Trauma?

When most people hear about EMDR therapy, they think of trauma recovery, and for good reason. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) was originally developed to treat PTSD and has decades of research supporting its effectiveness in healing trauma. But that’s not all EMDR can do.

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Is It Anxiety or Nervous System Dysregulation?
Anxiety, Holistic Therapy Laurel van der Toorn Anxiety, Holistic Therapy Laurel van der Toorn

Is It Anxiety or Nervous System Dysregulation?

You’re feeling on edge. Maybe your heart races for no clear reason, or you can’t concentrate no matter how much you try to “calm down.” You’ve Googled anxiety. You’ve tried meditation apps. But nothing really connects with how pervasive your unease is.

What if what you’re experiencing isn’t just anxiety, but a deeper issue rooted in your nervous system?

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Anxiety v. OCD: What’s The Difference?
Anxiety, OCD, Holistic Therapy Laurel van der Toorn Anxiety, OCD, Holistic Therapy Laurel van der Toorn

Anxiety v. OCD: What’s The Difference?

It’s not uncommon to hear people mistakenly use “anxious” and “OCD” interchangeably. Maybe someone says they’re “so OCD” because they like things neat, or they describe their worries as obsessive. But while anxiety and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) can look similar on the surface, they’re very distinct mental health conditions. They have different patterns and needs for treatment. And unfortunately, even a lot of therapists can't distinguish them unless they have specialized training.

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Managing Election Anxiety: Strategies for Staying Grounded
Boundaries, Self Care, Healthy Tech Use, Anxiety, Activism Laurel van der Toorn Boundaries, Self Care, Healthy Tech Use, Anxiety, Activism Laurel van der Toorn

Managing Election Anxiety: Strategies for Staying Grounded

If you're feeling on edge about the upcoming election, you're in good company. Elections can be a significant source of anxiety, especially when the stakes feel high. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the political climate and the uncertainty surrounding election outcomes, welcome. Here are some techniques to lower this specific kind of anxiety.

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Young Adult Financial Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming It
Anxiety, Millennials, Money and Emotions Laurel van der Toorn Anxiety, Millennials, Money and Emotions Laurel van der Toorn

Young Adult Financial Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming It

Financial anxiety can feel overwhelming. Many millennials experience it, even when they have enough resources. It's a mix of fear and stress about money, often tied to the pressures and expectations unique to our generation. As professionals who offer therapy for millennials, we see this showing up quite a bit. Interestingly, it shows up equally across income levels.

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