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Welcome To The Wild West: My Fears And Hopes About AI as a Trauma Therapist
As a therapist, I see plenty of reasons to be hopeful about how AI will reshape mental healthcare. And of course, there are plenty of reasons to be wary. Here are my thoughts and things I'll be monitoring as this technology matures.
Why EMDR Feels Worse Before It Gets Better
Feeling worse after starting EMDR? A trauma therapist explains why EMDR can feel harder before it helps, and what that actually means for your healing.
What Is the Soft Life and Should You Try It for Yourself?
You may have heard the term “soft life” floating around on social media or in lifestyle articles. It's often paired with images of sunlit brunches, cozy routines, or people stepping away from hustle culture due to burnout. At first glance, it can seem like just another aesthetic trend. But there's more substance to it than you might think.
I Can’t Stop Thinking About Something That Happened. Can EMDR Therapy Help Me?
If you can't stop thinking about something that happened, you are not weak or dramatic. You may have an unprocessed memory, and EMDR therapy can often help.
Loving Someone With Narcissistic Traits: Why It Hurts So Much
Many clients come to therapy at our practice feeling confused, ashamed, or exhausted from a relationship that feels both deeply hopeful and deeply painful.
Burnout in Tech: Why So Many Professionals Are at a Breaking Point
A lot of people in tech assume this just means they need a vacation, a better calendar system, or fewer meetings. Sometimes it means something more serious.
It means they’re burned out.
Understanding Your Teen’s Struggles In 2026: Why They Might Need Extra Support
Have you noticed that teens today seem more anxious, more dependent on their parents, or less confident than previous generations?
As teen therapists, we’ve seen a clear shift. Even years after lockdowns ended, many teens are still struggling to catch up socially and emotionally. While schools focused (appropriately) on academic recovery, emotional development often took a back seat, and it shows.
What to Do If You Had a Bad Experience with EMDR Therapy
If you’ve landed on this page, it probably means you’re feeling confused, hurt, or discouraged after trying EMDR therapy. We want to say right up front: we’re so sorry that happened. When therapy is supposed to offer healing and instead leaves you feeling worse, it feels especially jarring.
When Your Parent Is Your First Bully
When your parent is your first bully, something profound happens in the nervous system. The world stops feeling emotionally safe in a very early, foundational way. And that kind of wound often follows people much longer than they realize.
Dreading Family Gatherings? How EMDR Can Reduce In-Law Anxiety
A lot of people experience real anxiety about in-laws.
Sometimes it starts days before the event. You find yourself dreading the holiday, the dinner, the birthday party, the weekend visit. Your body tenses up before you’ve even left the house. You rehearse conversations in your head. You worry about what will be said, whether your partner will back you up, and how long it will take to recover afterward.
Floodlighting in LGBT Dating and How It Can Undermine Real Intimacy
Most of us long for closeness that feels deep, safe, and genuine. But sometimes, in the rush to get there, people may overshare too soon, leaving both parties feeling vulnerable and off balance.
How to Deal With Passive-Aggressive In-Laws Without Losing Your Cool
If you are trying to figure out how to deal with passive-aggressive in-laws without blowing up, freezing, or spiraling afterward, you are not alone. There are ways to respond that protect your peace without pulling you deeper into the dynamic.
Rejection Sensitivity vs. Trauma Triggers: How to Tell the Difference (and Why It Matters for Treatment)
Rejection sensitivity is an intense, often rapid emotional response to perceived rejection, criticism, or disapproval. It is frequently cognitive and relational in origin, rooted in attachment patterns, perfectionism, or ADHD.
Why Narcissist Partners Show Such Intense Potential at First
One of the most confusing parts of loving a narcissistically wounded partner is how good the beginning feels.
Why Your In-Laws Trigger You So Much (And How EMDR Can Help)
If you find yourself wondering, "Why do my in-laws trigger me so much?" the answer is usually deeper than “they’re annoying.”
Yes, maybe they are intrusive and critical and always seem to know exactly how to get under your skin. But when a reaction feels intense, immediate, or hard to shake, it usually means something in your nervous system is getting activated.
Does EMDR Therapy Work Online? What The Research Says
When EMDR therapy first became widely available online, many people had the same reaction:
Wait… this works over video?
EMDR therapy already feels a little unusual if you’re new to it. You think about a difficult memory while following eye movements or tapping your shoulders, and somehow the memory becomes less distressing.
How To Find a Great EMDR Therapist in San Francisco
If you’re searching for trauma therapy in the Bay Area, you’ve probably come across EMDR therapy.
Short for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, EMDR is a highly researched and effective treatment for trauma, PTSD, and emotional activation, among other things.
But like any therapy, your experience depends largely on finding the right fit.
When Your Partner Won’t Set Boundaries With Their Family: What You Can Do
If your partner won’t set boundaries with family, the goal is not just to fix the family dynamic. It is to understand what is happening between the two of you and create a healthier pattern together.
Is Teletherapy as Effective as In-Person Therapy?
Teletherapy is often a good fit if you value convenience, have a private space, and feel comfortable using technology. The best way to know is to try a few sessions and notice how you feel. Therapy is most effective when you feel safe, engaged, and able to be honest.
Why Your 20s Feel So Hard and How Therapy Can Help
If you’re in your 20s and feeling overwhelmed, disoriented, or behind, you’re in good company. Despite what social media (or your extended family at holiday dinners) might suggest, this decade isn’t just about finding yourself; it’s about building yourself from the ground up. And that process? It’s messy.
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